The Worst Places to Look for Potential Mates Just as some places are perfect for potential mate searches, some places are poor for potential mate searches. A bar is not a good place to search for a potential mate because many people visit bars with ill intentions in mind. Hardly anyone visits a bar looking for a long-lasting relationship or a soul mate. One or two people may do such, but they would be the minority. A club is not a good place to search for a mate for the same reason that a bar is not a good place to search for a mate. Furthermore, one would not want to search for a potential mate at a party. Many people will be at the party, but not many of those people will desire a relationship.